Leaders and Integrated Living

What almost dying taught me

Be Present

The gist of being present is reduce distractions and enjoy the moment. Being transparent about this pillar it is one that I struggle with. The reason being present is hard is because I hold the false belief that I can multitask. The reason I say it is false is because it is actually not possible for you to effectively do two things at the same time. If you are doing two things, one of them is not getting your full attention. A good example, is when you are “listening” to someone and reading a text message or email at the same time and you do not hear everything they said. Has that ever happened to you? I am embarrassed by the number of times those precious kids, I wrote about above get frustrated with me for making them repeat themselves. Yet, I do it over and over again. I am a work in process.

Be Open

The second thing I learned is to accept help and be open to new experiences. Having a stroke is certainly a major experience. Yet, as I healed I learned that the lessons also applied to life in general. The help that people were offering me was available all along, I did not ask, nor did I accept it. There were new behaviors that I had to adopt, including releasing control. In practice this included things like delegating more, setting expectations and boundaries, and identifying priorities. I thought I was open to change but the truth was I was open to change that was led by me.

Be Intentional

The bottom line about life is that it moves really fast. In the blink of an eye you look back and wonder where the time has gone. This is partly why I pushed myself so hard every single day and found myself flat on my back in that meeting. However, when I recovered, I knew that I could not go back to “normal”. That normal was not sustainable. Instead I learned that I could achieve my goals and live and integrated life that is healthier and fuller than the one that I was living. To do that I set my intention on being present and being open to learning best practices for self-care that would sustain me and keep me well.



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Kim Regis

Kim is a certified coach and leader with over 20 years of experience. Her passion is leading others toward unlocking their full potential.